Being a parent is an interesting journey. It is rewarding to see your kids grasp things that took you until much later in life to get, and know that it’s going to shape who they become in a positive way. It’s also a challenge to improve on those areas of weakness that you see being manifested in your kids.
This week I had the challenge of helping my now 7 year old son build his confidence. As we were sitting at the dinner table one night, he was very frustrated that he couldn’t get it, and it was inhibiting his ability to think critically. As you and I both know, once you get to that level of frustration, it’s time to take a breather because your brain is already tuned out.
Now I reflect on the advice and tools I gave him, and realize sometimes we all need just a little reminder of how to handle our frustration when the work we’re doing seems beyond our current capabilities. So, Enjoy, and remember, YOU CAN DO IT!
Success Steps When You’re Frustrated
- Set down everything you’re doing, and turn away from it for a moment.
- Close your eyes, and take a few slow deep breathes. Remember breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.
- As you begin to calm down, remind yourself that you’ve got this, you can figure this out.
- Now, very important, fist up your hands, throw them in the air, and declare, “I CAN DO IT”. **NOTE** The hands in the air is actually very important psychologically (so says the business major). This gesture is a gesture of victory, thus telling yourself you have already overcome this obstacle.
- Go make it happen.
- IMPORTANT: When you get done throw your hands back up in the air and declare “I HAVE DONE IT”. This reinforces what you have accomplished and helps to build your confidence.
This may not work for everyone, but it does work for me, and seems to be working well for those I share it with.
Good luck, and YOU CAN DO IT!